What's good for the goose is good for the gander

"I have a girlfriend. Do you hate me?" As I read the text...I thought hate you? I'm not even shocked.

This text came from a guy I had been seeing for about a week and a half. I know it's not long, but new! Not serious, but fun. Enough time to start to think, monogamy?

Not only seeing him, making out with him in public, laughing, joking, flirting...although...he forgot to mention his girlfriend. Coincidence? I think not...convenient! Oh did I mention they have been together for 7 years!

It seems as though men today meet a confident, self assured woman and suddenly come down with amnesia. What do you mean I have a girlfriend/wife? What's my name again? I'm a doctor..errr..I mean trash man....ummm, you're hot!

Snap out of it dude!!!

The next part is extremely commical..."So you don't hate me?" the following text said. "No. I have no one to answer to, you do!" was my reply. "Well I'm not going to tell her. Besides kissing isn't cheating." was his response...

I laughed out loud, quite literally! I was at work and scared clients I laughed so loud! He honestly believed that kissing was not cheating. Only intercourse would be considered so awful! hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...

LADIES, please take a moment to visualize your man, your husband, your significant other...heavily making out with another all over the city with you at home waiting for them. Would this bother you? Damn right it would! Every time you kissed him you might think he is thinking of her. Every time you made love he might be thinking of making love to her. It's a very touchy territory. You just don't go there!

I believe there are two kinds of cheating categories; Emotional and Physical. I also believe kissing would be considered physical cheating.

MEN, please take a moment to ask yourself if kissing another woman would be considered cheating?

Which leads me to 3 months later, which is just recently. We will just refer to him as Mr. Cheat. So I was at a bar and found out that not only had Mr. Cheat been making out with me all over the city...but sleeping with quite a few others...not including his girlfriend. Is this an accident I found this out....ummm...NO! For some reason people just talk to me. This particular piece of information upset me quite a bit. Not because we didn't sleep together, no no, it was the lying aspect of the whole situation.

So I send a bold text after a few glasses of red. "I find it funny how much of a whore you actually are and aren't the nice guy that made a mistake you portray to be. I only hope that poor girl figures you out sooner than later."

33 missed calls, one right after the other (sent to voice mail each time)
3 voicemails, each deleted without regard
51 text messages later....

I wasn't budging. I was standing my ground. Why should I continue to believe something that someone is saying that obviously has no truth to it. Especially with all the crap he fed me and not only me all of us! "I am a nice guy. I just got caught up. It won't happen anymore..BLAH BLAH BLAH!" I wasn't giving him the satisfaction of an explanation now or ever.

The next evening out with some friends I happen to run into him. UGH! Of course he wanted to talk...surprising! So I went outside with him...instead of listening to him...I put him in his place. He admitted to everything! Each detail, each girl, each situation. I wasn't sure whether to be proud to be the detective that cracked the case or feel bad for the fool.

He told me he couldn't take it anymore and had asked her to come over that night to talk. He "claimed" he was going to tell her everything without mentioning names.

The best part of the story....cheaters please take note!

A week later...I ran into him again. He let me know that the evening he left to talk to her he did in fact tell her everything leaving out names...without hesitation she looked at him and said "I'm glad we are being honest, I've been doing the same thing to you."

The crazy thing is, she wanted to know if they were going to stay together and work on things. The even crazier thing, he was pissed off that she would cheat on him and needed a week to think about things.

Men, Ladies, Cheaters of all kind...please say it with me "What's good for the goose is good for the gander!"